Monday, June 14, 2010

Very emotional two days ahead...

A little later this morning, Steve and I will be going to pick up my sister at the Jacksonville, FL airport. We are then continuing to drive up to Mt. Pleasant SC right outside of Charleston, SC. This is where the accident happened that killed my Dad and Brother-in-law. What's more important to us than seeing the scene of the accident, tomorrow morning at 8 a.m. we will be meeting with a Dentist whose office is right at the accident scene. He was actually the first person on the scene and tried to give medical aid to my Dad but he was already gone. He than began CPR on Jimmy and continued until the Paramedics arrived.

We found out about him by reading the witness reports of the accident and felt a strong desire to meet him and to thank him for trying to help our family. I know it will be hard to do this as it is already stirring up our emotions but it is something that my sister and I feel we have to do.

My sister continues to take baby-steps in her healing process. She feels like she is crying more today that she was even two weeks ago. I think its because she was still in shock two weeks ago and now, the shock has worn off and reality has begun to set in. She was told that she didn't have to go back to work until September when the accident happened (she is a teacher) and while I originally thought that was wonderful in the beginning, I am now thinking she really needs to be busy and keep moving. She still has a lot of paperwork to file with Jimmy's employer for benefits and I plan on helping her with it during the car ride the next two days.

I wish I was in New York with her. I feel so helpless being the only family member in FL. We talk on the phone a few times every day. We were always close but this accident has brought us even closer if that's even possible. I lost my Dad and she lost her Dad and husband. I cannot imagine the hell she is living in. I thank God she has Eric and Elayna to keep her going. They are great kids and I love them both very much.

We will be home late tomorrow night so I will not be posting again until Wednesday.



18 comments:

Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to you all. I don't even know the words to type. I just feel so sad for your family. Best wishes, Jacquie.

Dinnerland said...

You have my greatest sympathies... I am so sorry for you and your family's terrible loss.
This is such a difficult time, and the only way to go through it is to put one foot in front of the other, and know that over time-- as much time as it takes--the pain will get better and you will be left with all of your loving and happy memories.

Theresa said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be!

Girl Bandit said...

Oh Jacqui...will be thinking of you and your sister and Steve. This will be such an important step for you all....I think it will be theraputic for you all including the dentist. What a man. (((HUGS))))

Nicole said...

I will be thinking of you on your trip. Hope it helps with your healing process xo

Ronkidonks said...

I can't even begin to imagine the pain you and your family is going through. My eyese were getting teary just reading your post.

I will be saying a prayer for you and your family.

Lap Band Groupie said...

Jacquie, I wish you strength and hope that this trip will help you in your healing in some small way. ((hugs))

Steph said...

I'm keeping you and you sister in my thoughts this week. My God give you the strength you need to pull through this. Be safe!

DB said...

You & your sister are in my prayers. {{{HUGS}}}}

Jen said...

I just want to give you a huge hug. Have a safe trip and know that you are in my prayers.

Lillie said...

Know that your family is in our prayers....

Janice said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. It sounds like it will be a hard trip, but healing at the same time. I'm sure it will help the dentist to meet with you as well. It will be helpful to your sister to spend time with you as well; it is nice that you have each other to lean on. Hugs and know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of many.

-Grace- said...

Thinking of you and your sister. Big hugs, hun :)

Maree said...

I hope the trip helps in your healing. Take care of yourself and your lovely family.

Cindylew said...

I'm saying a prayer for your family's safe trip.
I hope this brings you some comfort and peace.
Your sister is lucky to have you my friend.

Nella said...

You and your famly are always in my thoughts...stay strong!

Marie said...

I'll be thinking of you !!!

THE DASH! said...

Ahh, sweet Jacquie,
My heart goes out to you all - again. It's all to easy to get on with our lives and forget those that are really struggling (though I have been thinking about you often xx)
I hope you get through all this as well as I'm sure, no sooner do you start to think there's an end to the nightmare than something else pops up. Baby steps with your darling sister too. My heart is with you both. xxx